Post by xanderray on Jul 24, 2009 0:56:43 GMT -5
Hey there -
All right - so! Earlier tonight I was told that Kelsey felt like crying. My motherly instincts kicked in and I told here I was there to talk. She asked me if I had ever felt like I was going to be single for the rest of my life and I told her that I had. And that it was hard, but someone that was dear to me told me that it was better to wait on things than to go for the next guy that expressed even a little interest in me. And let's face it, I felt like I wasn't all that attractive, so I never thought that I would have a boyfriend.
I was quite the tomboy. I cut my hair to look like Madam Hooch's hair from Harry Potter and I wore baggy pants with t-shirts, skate-shoes, and wristbands. I skate-boarded, hung out with a lot of guys, and did not really fit in. Well... my freshman year of high school, the first of April, I was asked out by a kid I had met at the theater house that the traveling acting group I was in, was renting out. I was excited! Just under sixteen and someone seemed to like me enough! And it was exciting, except for a couple things.
I lost my Best friend because of my boyfriend.
I lost a good guy friend because of my boyfriend.
I was the center for rumors because no one met my boyfriend until late.
It was just drama. So I broke up with him my sophomore year, just the week before Halloween. I was crushed. I missed my friends and I missed him. Unfortuntly, I made the mistake of deciding it was all right to have a rebound relationship with a guy in college.
RED ALERT! That was the worst choice I could have ever made. After three weeks of dating, I broke it off and told him I just wanted to be friends. Well.. a week past and I didn't have time to txt or call him because our house was flooding. He called me up before i left town and told me that I was a concided b*tch and i was just going back to my ex because the sex was good. First off - let me say that I am saving myself for marriage and would never dream of having sex before then. You could imagine that I was furious and I went to the train station and left town for New Years Eve weekend. I went to a large party in another state and had a ball. I was texting my ex in the process of the party, and when midnight came about he sent me a text with *kiss* on it. I knew that that was his way of saying he wanted to go back out, and since i was lonely, I decided all right.
Which was a mistake.
He because more controlling than my parents. He would call me every hour when i was out with my friends, constantly texting me where are you, who are you with, when will you be home, can you call me, i want you home. It was too much. I broke it off with him again before we went to the dance together and he told me that i owed him some making out and i told him to sodd off, i did not owe him anything.
Well. Summer came before my junior year of highschool and we were at the lake with my ex, my crush, and a few of my friends. I wanted to date my crush so much and my ex was just guilt-tripping me out of it (because they were friends from school), but I knew that there was something special about my crush.
See... we met eleven years ago at an Easter party my neighbors were having and it was instant. We both just had a huge crush on each other. We would hang out at church, go to the store, go for ice cream, hang out at his house, and everything. Then middle school hit and we lost contact. I still liked him a lot and people still teased me about loving him since 3rd grade til 9th grade. I felt like he never noticed me, that we were just somewhat friends that just got a long real well whenever we saw each other, and it was hard.
Well... I found out that he felt the same way when he asked me out. And the sweet thing was that he had been down to where we were meeting up for him to ask me out, an hour before hand, just making sure that it was clear of too many people and that it would be a clear night. It was rather sweet of him and I will never forget how he asked me. He wrapped his arms around my waist, smiled lightly on me as we dug our feet in the sand at the beach, and he asked me if i would go out with him.
It was just so romantic, and something told me that it was right. That this was mr. right. If we had liked each other for so long and we were still able to have that feeling for each other, even when we were together with someone else. It must have meant something.
And it still does.
We have been together for over two years and we are still going strong.
But my advice to all those single ladies that feel like there is never going to be a mr. Right is:
W - wonder about who it may be
A - answers. get all your answers before you commit
I - intrests.make sure you know what you want in a man
T - time. take time to really see if the guy you like is really all that and a bag of chips.
You may feel lonely, but it's a good thing to wait. Do NOT waste your prescious time and energy on some guy that is rude to you, your friends, and your parents. It's just not worth it.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND THERE IS A MR. RIGHT OUT THERE, YOU JUST HAVE TO WAIT.
There's a saying that I love:
There are many apples on the tree, the lower ones are easy to get to, but aren't as good. There are many good apples on the top of the tree, and the guy that works to get to the top to pick a good apple, is the right one.
Don't settle for less. You deserve the best and don't waster your time on Mr. Right Now. Go for the guy that makes you feel beautiful and reminds you that you are constantly.
Love you girlies!
All right - so! Earlier tonight I was told that Kelsey felt like crying. My motherly instincts kicked in and I told here I was there to talk. She asked me if I had ever felt like I was going to be single for the rest of my life and I told her that I had. And that it was hard, but someone that was dear to me told me that it was better to wait on things than to go for the next guy that expressed even a little interest in me. And let's face it, I felt like I wasn't all that attractive, so I never thought that I would have a boyfriend.
I was quite the tomboy. I cut my hair to look like Madam Hooch's hair from Harry Potter and I wore baggy pants with t-shirts, skate-shoes, and wristbands. I skate-boarded, hung out with a lot of guys, and did not really fit in. Well... my freshman year of high school, the first of April, I was asked out by a kid I had met at the theater house that the traveling acting group I was in, was renting out. I was excited! Just under sixteen and someone seemed to like me enough! And it was exciting, except for a couple things.
I lost my Best friend because of my boyfriend.
I lost a good guy friend because of my boyfriend.
I was the center for rumors because no one met my boyfriend until late.
It was just drama. So I broke up with him my sophomore year, just the week before Halloween. I was crushed. I missed my friends and I missed him. Unfortuntly, I made the mistake of deciding it was all right to have a rebound relationship with a guy in college.
RED ALERT! That was the worst choice I could have ever made. After three weeks of dating, I broke it off and told him I just wanted to be friends. Well.. a week past and I didn't have time to txt or call him because our house was flooding. He called me up before i left town and told me that I was a concided b*tch and i was just going back to my ex because the sex was good. First off - let me say that I am saving myself for marriage and would never dream of having sex before then. You could imagine that I was furious and I went to the train station and left town for New Years Eve weekend. I went to a large party in another state and had a ball. I was texting my ex in the process of the party, and when midnight came about he sent me a text with *kiss* on it. I knew that that was his way of saying he wanted to go back out, and since i was lonely, I decided all right.
Which was a mistake.
He because more controlling than my parents. He would call me every hour when i was out with my friends, constantly texting me where are you, who are you with, when will you be home, can you call me, i want you home. It was too much. I broke it off with him again before we went to the dance together and he told me that i owed him some making out and i told him to sodd off, i did not owe him anything.
Well. Summer came before my junior year of highschool and we were at the lake with my ex, my crush, and a few of my friends. I wanted to date my crush so much and my ex was just guilt-tripping me out of it (because they were friends from school), but I knew that there was something special about my crush.
See... we met eleven years ago at an Easter party my neighbors were having and it was instant. We both just had a huge crush on each other. We would hang out at church, go to the store, go for ice cream, hang out at his house, and everything. Then middle school hit and we lost contact. I still liked him a lot and people still teased me about loving him since 3rd grade til 9th grade. I felt like he never noticed me, that we were just somewhat friends that just got a long real well whenever we saw each other, and it was hard.
Well... I found out that he felt the same way when he asked me out. And the sweet thing was that he had been down to where we were meeting up for him to ask me out, an hour before hand, just making sure that it was clear of too many people and that it would be a clear night. It was rather sweet of him and I will never forget how he asked me. He wrapped his arms around my waist, smiled lightly on me as we dug our feet in the sand at the beach, and he asked me if i would go out with him.
It was just so romantic, and something told me that it was right. That this was mr. right. If we had liked each other for so long and we were still able to have that feeling for each other, even when we were together with someone else. It must have meant something.
And it still does.
We have been together for over two years and we are still going strong.
But my advice to all those single ladies that feel like there is never going to be a mr. Right is:
W - wonder about who it may be
A - answers. get all your answers before you commit
I - intrests.make sure you know what you want in a man
T - time. take time to really see if the guy you like is really all that and a bag of chips.
You may feel lonely, but it's a good thing to wait. Do NOT waste your prescious time and energy on some guy that is rude to you, your friends, and your parents. It's just not worth it.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND THERE IS A MR. RIGHT OUT THERE, YOU JUST HAVE TO WAIT.
There's a saying that I love:
There are many apples on the tree, the lower ones are easy to get to, but aren't as good. There are many good apples on the top of the tree, and the guy that works to get to the top to pick a good apple, is the right one.
Don't settle for less. You deserve the best and don't waster your time on Mr. Right Now. Go for the guy that makes you feel beautiful and reminds you that you are constantly.
Love you girlies!